Dad Charges Ex $100 To Babysit On Custody Day

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Jun 5, 2021 7:00 PM EDT

At first glance, you'd probably go ahead and assume that the dad was very much so in the wrong, but upon closer inspection it becomes glaringly evident that there's a whole lot more dysfunctional nonsense afoot within the relationship dynamic. Probably best to just hard reject the next time around. 

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for charging my ex to babysit our kid? I have a custody and child support agreement with my ex for our 5F (Sumara) that has been unchanged for the past 3 years, since our breakup. Personally, I've never missed anything, never been late. I adhere to the agreement to the tee. I make sure everything else in my life will agree with our agreement because I know thats whats best for Sumara. My ex...l can't say the same. She's never been a very organized person and after our breakup it seem
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    Font - 2 weeks ago she calls me at 7am and tells me I need to pick up Sumara because she has to go to to work soon and her normal childcare (her Mom) and her backup (her Sister) are not available. I'm like WTF I have to go to work soon as well what happened? Apparently her grandfather fell the night before and had to go to the hospital so her Mom went to see him, and since she doesn't drive her Sister also had to go (Mom and Sister live in the same house). He's still there so they're still with
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    Font - I double checked with my ex to make sure there is literally no one else available. When she said no, I called my boss and explained the situation and he said it was cool, but he reminded me that Il'm a new employee so I didn't have any paid time off, and that in general it doesn't look good for new employees to call-off last minute. I said I understand, and picked up my daughter. When my ex came to pick her up at the end of the day I told her she owes me $100. I lost money by not going to
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    Facial expression - AITA here? Its not even about the money it was about sending the message that she's not being a responsible parent and she needs to face harsher penalties due to her lack of preparation. Grandpa is now fine, BTW. 536 193 1, Share
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    Rectangle - RonsThrowAwayAcc · 10h Partassipant [2] Was ready to call you an Ah, but your right you can't pay her to pay for a sitter take the cash and then make you watch the kid missing out on the work needed to pay the sitter, so NTA G Reply 924 3 ...
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    Font - Loveshiikii • 10h NTA. Her work is not more important than yours. WTH? If you had had a day off and there was an emergency on her side, suuuure. But you're both in the same situation except it's HER week. G Reply 1 113 3 ...
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    Rectangle - Loveshiikii · 10h NTA. Her work is not more important than yours. WTH? If you had had a day off and there was an emergency on her side, suuuure. But you're both in the same situation except it's HER week. G Reply 4 113 3 ...
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    Font - rileygreyy • 10h Craptain [166] NTA. She needs backup care to properly provide the level of childcare you're already assisting in paying for. Stuff happens, but when the same stuff repeatedly happens, she needs to figure out a new system that doesn't jeopardize your job. G Reply 1 82 3 + ...
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    Font - scatteredpebbles · 8h I think it is time to go over your custody agreement. She can be the one to pay you child support since you are clearly the primary caregiver for your child anyway. NTA. G Reply 1 33 3 ...
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    Rectangle - ollygollymolly · 7h Partassipant [4] NTA but like...instead of charging, I would take this to court to get your agreement revised. She clearly cannot hold up her end. G Reply 4 12 3
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    Font - Daisylnc · 9h Colo-rectal Surgeon [42] NTA, bordering ES H. It was her fault but being petty asking for cash isn't the right way to deal with it. It just antagonizes her, makes her more convinced you're being unreasonable and gives her free rein to continue parenting your daughter poorly. You should keep track and document all these lapses in her parenting and use it to make a case to revise your custody or child support terms. The main priority is to place your daughter in the hands of a
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    Font - NTA - but I think you've shot yourself in the foot here in how you've explained and put forward your question. You've paid for childcare via your custody agreement but your ex wont enrol kid in child care and has / expects you to be the fallback when her mum/sister cant watch your child causing you to miss work. Plus she still expects you to pay for childcare on that day. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - FirebirdWriter · 5h Partassipant [3] NTA. You should document this and see about getting your arrangement adjusted G Reply ...
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    Font - Runne7 · 2h NTA. She should have payed you G Reply * -2 3 ...
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